Bingo Players - is Your Husband a Slouch on the Couch?
According to a survey by a leading online bingo site, results showed that 80% of husbands of women who play online bingo were lazy and failed to contribute enough to housework or jobs around the home. It may be no surprise that women who play bingo are also most likely to do the majority of housework and childcare, and are then likely to seek other forms of entertainment around the home, like playing bingo online, as they seek to break away from continued vacuuming or dish washing.
So does your husband have selective hearing or temporary loss of vision when it comes to you pointing out the amount of dust or pile of washing in the laundry basket?
According to one clinical psychologist and relations expert, a concern about looking weak is one major factor at the heart of men’s unwillingness to contribute to housework. Housework was always seen as something your mother did while father was at work. From this perspective it is easy for your husband to make excuses to avoid family work and to prove to you that he has status as a man.
Because men are sensitive to any suggestion that they are of lower status, one suggestion to tempt your man off the couch would be to state your requests as requests and not as demands. Asking is almost always a better strategy.
A study of men around the home produces a list of various types and ways that those men deal with housework requests.
The Boy: He is needy and pretends to be incompetent around the house. His wife deals with the bills and chores, and often complains that living with him is like have another child.
The Worrier: He is excessively worried about everything and cannot enjoy work or home life because of it. His laziness isn’t so much a dislike of a task rather than a fear of it, or fear of doing it wrong.
The Perfectionist: He wants the house and children to look perfect but doesn’t want to do the work himself. Perfectionist men are less likely to be lazy husbands as they tend to be hard-working and obsessive. However, some have perfectionist expectations of their wives too.
The Status Seeker: he puts his career before his family. He believes that spending time at home decreases his professional status. While most state that they value their families over their jobs, the majority are unable or unwilling to put these priorities into practice by contributing around the house.
Spain recently passed a law to kick-start the 40% of men that do not touch house work of any kind. MPs have drawn up a marriage contract for use in civil ceremonies which obliges men to share household chores and the care of children. Failure to meet these obligations will be taken into consideration by judges when determining the terms of divorces and men who refuse to do their part may be given less contact with their children. Although the likelihood of being able to cart your husband off to the local police station for failing to do the ironing is not known.
Men in the USA fair well when it comes to household chores. Men do 1.6 hours housework a day irrespective of whether their partners are at work or not. Whereas in the UK 93% of cleaning and 90% of childcare is done by women who also prepare 77% of evening meals. One survey of UK men found that only 21% had ever washed any clothes or done any ironing.
So how to you get your man off the couch, giving yourself more time to play your favourite online bingo games?
Well, if your husband is The Boy, then you have to try to make him take on some responsibilities such as doing the finances, and then let him suffer any consequence without acting as a buffer. Never agree to run parts of his life that he can run himself.
If your husband is The Worrier, then tease him if he will let you. Don’t criticise him for his worry and try to explain that they are not rational. Do activities that are meaningful to you.
If you are married to The Perfectionist, then present a list of things he could do and ask him to choose some. Ask in an affectionate and up-tone manner and the easier the tasks the greater the number he should choose.
If you are married to The Status Seeker, put your foot down immediately and refrain from doing any chores until he contributes. After a short space of time he will probably comment on the state of the house. Try telling him that you cannot do everything and refuse to proceed until he takes part.
A survey of 650 UK housewives found that they vacuumed the living room carpet an average of 215 times a year and cleaned the bath 182 times. On average they spent 20 minutes doing each of these chores. Imagine how many chores are involved in housework and the time spent on each. Then think of how many of those hours could be spent playing online bingo games and you might start making changes around your home sooner than you think.
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